You start down the path beset by shame, guilt and maybe even a little anger and resentment. You’re fighting various demons and figuring out not just the gender stuff but teasing it apart from sexual orientation issues. Then the cloud starts to lift a bit. You get introduced to this vision of what life can…… Continue reading Why a Little is at least Sometimes not enough
Month: October 2015
The Art of Being Gracious
Here’s a subject that I am the world’s least knowledgeable person in. I have spent years doing at best a mediocre job of being gracious and yet, and yet I feel that I’ve started to understand the right thing to do at times. So much boils down to respecting people’s good intent and not having…… Continue reading The Art of Being Gracious
Freedom
Tied to earth with bonds held strong, Hardened ages twisted tight. Ruled by darkness shirked the light and never saw the path Then a star at last appears, To bring some hope to wayward fears. Dimly seen, an answered prayer to end the corded misery Shattered stories laws upturned, Justice found in words not hear.…… Continue reading Freedom
Judge Not
I remember well the time and place. It was the fall before I went full time. I had started taking hormones and was spending more and more time in female mode, but if I’m recalling correctly I gave in to a request from my spouse to not just show up as Rachel. I would show…… Continue reading Judge Not
Leaping Tall Obstacles in a Single Bound
No, we aren’t superman or superwoman, but reading this article can give you a sense of how truly difficult the journey is from awareness to the end of physical transition, a place I’m fast approaching. I realized, as I answered the friend who wrote me about the article, that I should write about that journey, that…… Continue reading Leaping Tall Obstacles in a Single Bound
Torn Apart
Years together sped by too fast cannot make these moments last. The love we feel cannot overtake the fateful steps, we must make The endless ribbon winds us round And binds us gently to the ground No matter that we wish to soar We must break free to fly And so the bonds are burst…… Continue reading Torn Apart
Defining yourself
What does it mean to become a women. I wrote at length about being a real woman, but that was mostly talking about biology. There’s much more to being a woman than biology, at least more to the female gender than biological sex. When someone transitions from male to female, the first stop might be…… Continue reading Defining yourself
What is a Friend
A poem written by my father What is a friend, I’ll define it with care, On one you depend, When things aren’t fair. If I were the friend, I’d laugh when you’re gay, I’ll never pretend, In a false pointless way. Your tears be my sorrow, All aid I would lend, Of me you may…… Continue reading What is a Friend
Vigil
There’s a face that stares Over midnight cares Lines engraved A story of times Of days uncertain Where a pulled back curtain Revealed joys or woes Do you see the callow youth Behind those hard won lines A sage Lost more than won And now hopes to win The dearest heart The fate of all…… Continue reading Vigil
A Real Girl
This is one place I struggled with for years and it was a major roadblock for me. I knew what could and couldn’t be done. I just knew I couldn’t be a real girl because and then I could list some reasons. It almost made me (in my head) like a trans exclusionary radical feminist…… Continue reading A Real Girl
My Gifted Life 