We, each of us, have a story that tells how we become who we are as adults and as the people we are today. These are some of my signposts. Some are subtle, but most are not even close. As I transitioned I lived my life again. I recalled times, thoughts and events from twenty,…… Continue reading Remembering…
Month: December 2016
Use our Names and Pronouns Please
Slightly edited from a post I made on Quora: I at times struggle even with my new sex and presentation. I have bad mornings when I think nobody can hear me, see me, or accept me as a woman. I am starting to go to great lengths to not out myself. It turns out it…… Continue reading Use our Names and Pronouns Please
LGBT Parental Rejection
I can’t improve on this post from quora. I’m including it here because not everyone reads Quora. What Makes Parents Reject their Transgender or Gender non-Conforming Children
Forgivenes
It is not a simple thing, and antipathy, anger, hatred and humiliation heavily outweigh forgiveness as a force for the good. In some parts of the world instead of forgiveness we have a stone box holding in the anger and shame, too often followed by the death of a daughter or sister who has been seen…… Continue reading Forgivenes
The Tyrant
The Tyrant stands with flaming sword, all she judges, no accord, and down there at her feet, the countless faces waiting deep Outside, there is freezing cold, A sad story freshly told, Of love that’s lost, Can n’re return the cost Children look at her feet Beg for more bread to eat And still no…… Continue reading The Tyrant
From HRT to New Years
The fall of 2013 was a busy time after I started HRT. Let’s start with the effects of HRT, and I’ll talk about that to more recent minor changes. HRT Changes To start with, remember that this is my timeline and yours could be very different. It would have been great if things happened quicker,…… Continue reading From HRT to New Years
The road less travelled by
With apologies to Robert Frost for stealing those five words. One of my favorite poets. That too one of my favorite poems, “I took the road less travelled by and that made all the difference” The road stretches onward, the path is strewn with glass, There is bold destiny, climbing to the pass And endless…… Continue reading The road less travelled by
Fear and Doubt
Most of the time I manage pretty well, stay calm and collected, and provide what I hope is decent advice to you, who are going through this, and those close to you who seek to understand your pain and anguish. All the while dealing with their own pain and heartache. Never lose track of that.…… Continue reading Fear and Doubt
To those we love and love us
There are different degrees of intimacy in one’s life. Broadly there’s family, friends and community. When we identify ourselves as trans there is an impact on all these people, greater the closer they are to us. Acceptance has little to do with politics or religion, at least in our close circles. Such has been my…… Continue reading To those we love and love us
Cellophane
Those of us who have transitioned and seen life “from both sides now” as Joni Mitchell famously sang know a truth hidden from most. Men and women live separate worlds separated by cellophane. A few thousandth of an inch a part. We think we hear each other but so often do not. If you are…… Continue reading Cellophane
My Gifted Life 