Here’s a subject that I am the world’s least knowledgeable person in. I have spent years doing at best a mediocre job of being gracious and yet, and yet I feel that I’ve started to understand the right thing to do at times. So much boils down to respecting people’s good intent and not having…… Continue reading The Art of Being Gracious
Category: Current
Defining yourself
What does it mean to become a women. I wrote at length about being a real woman, but that was mostly talking about biology. There’s much more to being a woman than biology, at least more to the female gender than biological sex. When someone transitions from male to female, the first stop might be…… Continue reading Defining yourself
A Real Girl
This is one place I struggled with for years and it was a major roadblock for me. I knew what could and couldn’t be done. I just knew I couldn’t be a real girl because and then I could list some reasons. It almost made me (in my head) like a trans exclusionary radical feminist…… Continue reading A Real Girl
Los Angeles
The last of my poetry backlog, I may slow down a bit (or not) The Angels look from high above And send the sunlight bright and clear Summer Heat and busy streets And lanes to cross before I sleep Far from conflict, free from care Heartfelt talks, friendly fare Time to heal and charge the…… Continue reading Los Angeles
Autumn
Daylight comes in smaller pieces Frosty mornings harvest time Apple cider from the presses Autumn time Again Around a sunny orchard screams Tiny children running round Gather apples while ye may Summer’s winding down Hayrides Gray clouds gather, wet the weather Musty smells of earth and leaf Brilliant flowers of the maples Make us bowers…… Continue reading Autumn
Transformation
We live, we change, we transform. People make many transitions, from child to adult, school to work to retirement, single to married to widowed or divorced. I don’t know that gender makes for a particularly deep transition, perhaps just yet another difficult one to gain perspective upon. In a short while I’ll reach the practical…… Continue reading Transformation
Outmoded Ideas
I remember being clueless about what was involved with transition, and when the media alluded to Chaz Bono making a “lifestyle choice” it made as much sense as anything. There I was, with the thoughts I had locked up inside my bony skull and I somehow could buy the notion that transitioning was some trivial…… Continue reading Outmoded Ideas
Pain and Suffering
For some reason over the past several years I have read a lot of posts (really) from other transwomen, either those in their journey of discovery to find out what they need, in transition, or afterward. All too often I see a lack of perspective. But this isn’t limited to trans people, it is exploited…… Continue reading Pain and Suffering
Moving On
Boxes and boxes Row by Row Stack by Stack Life isn’t Lift, arrange, piece and plunder Tearing all the world asunder Chaos reigns Wheels and gears Move and strain Haul the load Destination Feathers drifting into place Tessellated each one’s face Arranged Quiet solitude at last found Here above cold trodden ground Life continues unabated…… Continue reading Moving On
The Fortune of Friends
As people, and in particular people living in a Western materialistic society we measure wealth, status and success so much by what we have and what we own, whether tangible or intangible. We tend to ignore the riches that lay (or are missing) from under our noses, those aspects of life that really can bring…… Continue reading The Fortune of Friends
My Gifted Life 