We can be pretty confused human beings when we start our transition. Everything is changing and we want it done now. But it isn’t something that happens in a month, or a year. It happens over a few years give or take. It depends on the person. I personally think of transition in three parts:…… Continue reading What it means to be supported
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Biological Sex – a political landmine
There re those, and for awhile I was one, who say biological sex doesn’t exist. Supporting this is the reality that most of your body couldn’t care one fig what your chromosomes say. The exception was the development of your ovaries or testes or possibly the ovo-testes that form in the development of some intersex…… Continue reading Biological Sex – a political landmine
Hard Youth
There are many fine things about being young, robust good health, beauty, and the ease that we take on friends and lovers. Youth feels immortal, like it too will not succumb as we age, always feeling young in our hearts. Youth questions authority and often sneers at institutions like the government or organized religion. However,…… Continue reading Hard Youth
But *how* do I start
An open letter to a woman who has just emerged You might be as I was, in middle years and finding gender dysphoria as a kind of torture. It arrived for me slowly; slowly enough that I did not at first see the train approaching through the fog. I fancied I was “just thinking” about…… Continue reading But *how* do I start
My life as a transgender child
The earliest memories I have firmly in my brain start around age 4 or 5. What memories I have from earlier are more glimpses but nothing immersive. I might remember a single scene and there are very, very few of these. Around age 6 or 7 I have this distinct memory of being in a…… Continue reading My life as a transgender child
What’s wrong with McHugh
In the 1970s John’s Hopkins was one of the places you could go to have reassignment surgery performed. The procedure was essentially the same, although there have been many improvements since. However, one notable improvement in the process had not happened yet. The Benjamin rules hadn’t taken over. Virtually anyone could ask for the surgery…… Continue reading What’s wrong with McHugh
Makeup – how many companies are there really?
Not many. Really not many. Here are some lists of who owns what. I’m intentionally omitting some of the other brands that are just nail polish like Essie (L’Oreal), or hair products, etc. L’Oreal Lancome, L’Oreal, Shu Uemera, Urban Decay, It, Maybelline, NYX, The Body Shop Estee Lauder Bobbi Brown, Clinique, Estee Lauder, Mac, Smashbox,…… Continue reading Makeup – how many companies are there really?
Buying Clothing – tops
Tops come in a variety of configurations. Many more than for men. For men there are about 4, tank, polo, t-shirt and button down. There are some less common ones more aimed at sports like jerseys. For women there are that many kind of tops with thin straps. Some tops are meant to be worn…… Continue reading Buying Clothing – tops
More than five years past
There are things that just hit you like a bolt out of the blue. You realize that you’ve a half a decade lost in a miasma of shifting veils learning to be this new and different version of yourself. Was the person before not you and is this a truer you? Is it perhaps just…… Continue reading More than five years past
Be Supportive – Accept us
This is probably the hardest one, it really is. After all, you might have known us a long time. Maybe this all feels a little unnatural and then again it just is so easy to think up objections to why we aren’t genuine. Let me go down the major ones to quell the fear. Not…… Continue reading Be Supportive – Accept us
My Gifted Life 