A couple of short things to relate, both in the nature of the nature of a woman’s reality. Not all is green in the pasture of perfume and nylons, no indeed. I’ll try to be amusing as I can. The other day I found myself mighty uncomfortable. Now when I say uncomfortable I mean that…… Continue reading The ides of April
Category: Journey
Coming Out
I apologize right up front. I can only talk about my successes and failures and what I’d do differently given the opportunity. This is a story, not advice. I’m still coming out to people. There’s no one right way to do this. No prescription. Everyone’s friends, family, social circles, and jobs are different and call…… Continue reading Coming Out
Panty Gussets
Now there’s an odd post title. By the way, be careful Googling it as a subject. I advise against doing so at work – at the very least read the site titles carefully before clicking. I had no idea. I mean I knew there was a fetish, but really? However, my reason for talking about…… Continue reading Panty Gussets
Our Stories
We are who we remember ourselves to be, and that self narrative can dramatically affect how we live in the present. Viewing our whole life as well spent is like having a set of blocks to start from, our whole life as a waste like watery sand. I do think when someone is suffering there’s…… Continue reading Our Stories
Passing
Two or three weeks ago and turned the corner into my apartment building’s parking lot. I found a space and saw a man striding along that looked familiar. I noticed along the path he trod that he was approaching a vehicle I associated with him. I wandered down and said hello and we had a…… Continue reading Passing
Why Me
Why you? Why me? Why any of us. It would be hard for me to believe at this point that any of us has not struggled with that question. Nor does it necessarily help to find reasons. If someone tested you tomorrow and said you had a smaller BSTc area like other TG people (postmortem…… Continue reading Why Me
Do We Deceive
This is repeated with changes from a post I made to a trans forum. I was happy with the writing and thought it might help those who struggle with having waited all their lives to tell the truth. Edits: Italics are additions and strikethroughs are removals. We deny things to ourselves, we take truths and fold them…… Continue reading Do We Deceive
Are we women?
I’ve written before why we are, why people feel we aren’t, but are we? It isn’t an easy topic. It’s fraught with jagged rocks that will rend you from stem to stern. It might be at the crux of what we do by transitioning, but perhaps the other question is, is it? These days if…… Continue reading Are we women?
Depression is a dirty word
Depression is a terrible word in our society, almost as bad as trying to talk about death. It happens mostly to others, unless it happens to be happening to you. In the trans community we’re fond of telling people they really can’t understand. I have news for you, that’s true for lots of divides. Men…… Continue reading Depression is a dirty word
Letting Go
When we’ve lived a lifetime as someone; with someone. Spent hours in pursuits profound and frivolous. Seen the world through blue glasses that now are rose and handle the world through less steady hands. Well, one simply has to start thinking about what comes along for the ride and what, no longer needed, is left…… Continue reading Letting Go
My Gifted Life 