All of your energy is focused over a period of years to accomplish one goal after another. Transition, adaptation and then after a longish while surgery. Now what? Well, you get to live your life the way it was supposed to be, but aside from having some new chores to maintain the new biology, you…… Continue reading Post op blues
Category: Transition
Happy New Year
First and foremost may 2016 be a better year for us all. Life involves change and while not all change may be welcome, it will happen anyway. It remains to us whether we embrace change or fight the losing battle for stasis. For me last year was all about change, and change that remains in…… Continue reading Happy New Year
Escaping the Past
My prior incarnation, D, tended to be pretty argumentative. This was at its worse with people who were close to me. My therapist feels I was keeping them at a distance, and honestly, that might be a good explanation. I’d add that my interactions with my father growing up pushed me to defend my positions…… Continue reading Escaping the Past
Keeping a sense of humor
I had to make an appointment with a gynecologist. It was unsurprisingly my first that wasn’t just to talk to her before surgery so the first real appointment wouldn’t be too strange (where are the smiley faces when I want one!). I’ve been to a lot of doctors and there are many awkward positions available.…… Continue reading Keeping a sense of humor
The Whys of SRS
Why get confirmation surgery at all? I’ve written before about people who insist that getting surgery is some requirement for being “serious” about being a woman (or a man I suppose for the FtM community). My negative feelings about those folks haven’t moderated, no person, regardless of intent has a right to put such a…… Continue reading The Whys of SRS
Lost
We go to find our friends so dear along the moonlit drive Wandering both far and near we call, no answer, why? For years they’ve stood there by your side through thick and thin you trust Then the next page opens wide and still they’re there but just Yet then the changes batter down the…… Continue reading Lost
Three weeks post op
This is likely the last post solely about my surgery, truthfully there are many details that are inappropriate to share either because of my privacy and modesty, or a desire to not publish uncomfortable descriptions. For those who want the anatomical, medical view of this topic I suggest doing searches on PubMed and YouTube has…… Continue reading Three weeks post op
Is it them, or Me??
The areas that hurt most transitioners are losses of family, friends, community and employment. As society gets more accepting these tend to be less of a problem, but it would be the rare trans person who is totally unaffected. Here I want to talk about friends. I can only speak from an MtF viewpoint, I’m…… Continue reading Is it them, or Me??
The true cost of SRS
People live through many good and bad times in their lives. If you are trans, signing up for some type of reassignment surgery is just one more of these. No one reading my post should think that deciding to get SRS, preparing for it or moving on afterwards is a world of rainbows and unicorns.…… Continue reading The true cost of SRS
Look not to others
When I started on my journey I would hear the term “True Self” with derision. After all, I was who I was and I might change but my core would stay the same, right? Then months went past and the persona I had as a man was clearer to me. It was clear that was…… Continue reading Look not to others
My Gifted Life 