I’m not a static person and don’t have static views. Every time I read a post from someone it has the potential to evolve my own views. I only consider myself an expert in my own personal experiences, not other’s. When people have asked me if gender dysphoria is an essential part of being trans…… Continue reading Do you need to be gender dysphoric
Category: Transition
Hips
I was looking in the mirror yesterday and I realized that I’m shaped like a woman. Not a little, a lot. My hips start below my rib cage and end at my thighs – I’m a hefty sort even after losing about 20#. I knew I had something there, I just didn’t realize what. Go…… Continue reading Hips
Why People Rarely Change Their Minds
People keep asking this on Quora, presumably out of a morbid fascination of the assumed sense of dread that person would feel. Oh my god what have I done. In fact it would be very dire, and I am truly empathetic for the extremely few people who have managed to get to that position. The…… Continue reading Why People Rarely Change Their Minds
Do People Ever forgive and forget
Just now when I thought things were basically over, I’ve had another rude awakening. Perhaps it was just about my personality. I can’t take all the info out of this post – those who know me personally in the Jewish community will know where I attend and other details, but I’ll leave those out of…… Continue reading Do People Ever forgive and forget
Timelines
Not everyone progresses in a straightforward way from say male to female. There can be hiccups, detransitions, and decisions to go back to the status quo ante for any number of reasons. For example, it is a really common pattern among cross dressers and even some trans individuals to periodically purge. They’ll build up a…… Continue reading Timelines
Gender Transition
It should be understood first that the primary transition is one of sex, and the secondary transition is a shorter one of pseudo male to female. The second really depends on the person, as soon as one recognizes and acknowledges that one’s “true” gender is female, I would claim a mental transition starts. At least…… Continue reading Gender Transition
Transition and GRS work well
A question that appears fairly often on Quora is about whether people regret transition and in particular GCS. The question is a good one from a lay viewpoint since even a naive knowledge realizes that such surgery is largely irreversible. The focus is, like many of these questions, on the MtF transitioner, ignoring FtM. FtM…… Continue reading Transition and GRS work well
Reflections on four years full time
I’d like to starts with the hard stuff so I leave you with some more positive messages. As these years have gone by it has become more and more apparent how deep my losses have been. Not everyone’s go this deep and some go deeper. I’ve seen outright rejection, usually in a non-confrontational way. I’ve…… Continue reading Reflections on four years full time
It’s not quite there
I had to think awhile before writing this. I didn’t want it to be about the event that inspired it, especially since that experience wasn’t unique. It is part of an ongoing pattern that really hurts me deeply and I imagine other trans people too. We’ve made good progress in this world. There’s a good…… Continue reading It’s not quite there
To thine own self be true
I remember the words, words I’ve seen echoed in questions I’ve answered. I told my rabbi that I could never be a real woman, something similar to my therapist. They told me you can be close enough. I’m telling you, close enough is good enough. It really is true, most doctors can’t tell the results…… Continue reading To thine own self be true
My Gifted Life 