It is not a simple thing, and antipathy, anger, hatred and humiliation heavily outweigh forgiveness as a force for the good. In some parts of the world instead of forgiveness we have a stone box holding in the anger and shame, too often followed by the death of a daughter or sister who has been seen…… Continue reading Forgivenes
Category: Transition
Fear and Doubt
Most of the time I manage pretty well, stay calm and collected, and provide what I hope is decent advice to you, who are going through this, and those close to you who seek to understand your pain and anguish. All the while dealing with their own pain and heartache. Never lose track of that.…… Continue reading Fear and Doubt
To those we love and love us
There are different degrees of intimacy in one’s life. Broadly there’s family, friends and community. When we identify ourselves as trans there is an impact on all these people, greater the closer they are to us. Acceptance has little to do with politics or religion, at least in our close circles. Such has been my…… Continue reading To those we love and love us
The road to HRT (part 4)
(Gosh I can’t count. Part four) As summer approached things kept moving along. I found that in order to feel better I needed to spend more and more time as Rachel. Going to work in male mode felt more and more burdensome. I was out to some close friends and started to be able to do…… Continue reading The road to HRT (part 4)
The road to HRT (part 2)
As things we not getting solved with art and music, as well as some journaling and whatever else I could think of that would ease things without making any changes, it was time to start the train back up. The next stop was to try cross dressing at home. This was a little tricky since…… Continue reading The road to HRT (part 2)
The road to HRT (part 1)
At the beginning of this journey in April 2012 I came out to my rabbi and wife. After some initial therapy with a general therapist my doctor wanted me to see a psycho sexual therapist, i.e. someone who would be comfortable and competent at assessing me. About six weeks after I came out, and probably…… Continue reading The road to HRT (part 1)
Living with Depression
Most days I do fairly well and I manage to stay reasonably motivated and even legitimately cheerful. I don’t struggle to work, to concentrate or with insomnia. Most days. I’m like a lot of people with clinical depression who are being successfully treated with medication and who have tried to remove stress and conflict from…… Continue reading Living with Depression
The Holidays
This time of the year that brings thoughts of home and hearth, peace and joy can be especially trying for those living by themselves, isolated. There are a lot of reasons this happens, for trans people because people and family have turned away, but it also happens if you outlive your friends and contemporary family…… Continue reading The Holidays
Confirmation Bias
This doesn’t sound like it has much to do with being trans, right? I’ll ask for you patience while I explain what it is, and then I’ll say how it affects us. Confirmation bias is the phenomenon where the brain filters information based on a decision. The dictionary definition: The tendency to interpret new evidence…… Continue reading Confirmation Bias
What About Regrets?
Poor information is often worse than no information at all. I watched a YouTube video where a young 20 something woman gave out both good and some bad information. This included some information that is critical for people considering a transition to know, hence the links in the next paragraph. The following link to the…… Continue reading What About Regrets?
My Gifted Life 