I was sitting in a chair at Bare Minerals getting made up to try one of their foundations. I’m making the woman who’s doing the make up and another customer laugh. I told the beautician O that I had been to see some one who treats folks like me well, and I knew she knew.…… Continue reading Betrayed by a bit of lace
Category: Transition
The Company of Women
A strange day today starting with insomnia, progressing to migraine and trouble functioning at work. I’m afraid though that the start had an impact on work and after a bit returning home seemed the better course of action. A nap later I’m still not quite there, but certainly closer to the next opportunity at a…… Continue reading The Company of Women
Help me grow…
As far as I’ve been able to figure out, which actually is pretty difficult to do, this blog is reaching between 100 and 150 people between wordpress, facebook, linked in and twitter. I’ve been letting it grow “organically”, back following other bloggers, handing out business cards as I run into people I think might be…… Continue reading Help me grow…
How to be a Girl for the Trans woman
A short list of things to do or not do. Complete? Not even close. Talk like a girl Pitch is less important than intonation, cadence and word choice. Some women have lowish voices, but women still speak like women. Female speech varies more in pitch than male speech. Women are much more descriptive: “It’s a…… Continue reading How to be a Girl for the Trans woman
What’s Transitioning?
Definition: the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another. That’s helpful, we know what a transition is. What does it mean for a person to transition from male to female or female to male? That’s more complex. There are at least three different things people talk about using the same…… Continue reading What’s Transitioning?
Transgender Access
There’s this issue of what’s appropriate for trans versus cis people. If we face facts we need to understand that the vast majority of folks are cisgender and their biological sex is not affected by any kind of intersex condition. It is therefore somewhat understandable that we get the simplistic notions that men have penises…… Continue reading Transgender Access
Why Me
Why you? Why me? Why any of us. It would be hard for me to believe at this point that any of us has not struggled with that question. Nor does it necessarily help to find reasons. If someone tested you tomorrow and said you had a smaller BSTc area like other TG people (postmortem…… Continue reading Why Me
Do We Deceive
This is repeated with changes from a post I made to a trans forum. I was happy with the writing and thought it might help those who struggle with having waited all their lives to tell the truth. Edits: Italics are additions and strikethroughs are removals. We deny things to ourselves, we take truths and fold them…… Continue reading Do We Deceive
Are we women?
I’ve written before why we are, why people feel we aren’t, but are we? It isn’t an easy topic. It’s fraught with jagged rocks that will rend you from stem to stern. It might be at the crux of what we do by transitioning, but perhaps the other question is, is it? These days if…… Continue reading Are we women?
Changing Masks
When we first transition we challenge our friends, acquaintances, coworkers, and families to now see us differently. We ask that they call us by a different name, consider us as another gender; a gender we may long have felt internally, but not one they saw before their eyes. I’ve mentioned before that for some of…… Continue reading Changing Masks
My Gifted Life 