I’ve been through this with several different women. They look for reasons that labelling me as a woman is wrong. The arguments are familiar, so I’ll be brief about the arguments and answers. First, I would like my reader (ok my cis gendered reader) to imagine that one could safely have everything below the waist…… Continue reading Othering
My life as a transgender child
The earliest memories I have firmly in my brain start around age 4 or 5. What memories I have from earlier are more glimpses but nothing immersive. I might remember a single scene and there are very, very few of these. Around age 6 or 7 I have this distinct memory of being in a…… Continue reading My life as a transgender child
Reflections on 3+ years post transition
Sometimes our friends are kind to us. Sometimes they don’t want to because they think it won’t be nice. I’ll take kind anyday. That included being told by my wife when I was dressed particularly badly, feedback on my hair being too light. It also included lots of things I should have listened to more…… Continue reading Reflections on 3+ years post transition
Memories 2015 from October to December
Going through from March of 2014 when I went full time to March of 2015 was a hiatus. Things were good at home, but it was a kind of truce. We both knew that once I was eligible for surgery things could change radically. There wasn’t much question in my mind that I wanted the…… Continue reading Memories 2015 from October to December
The LGBT contagion?
There’s an interesting trope amongst those who don’t know us in the LGBT community, especially among those who are against the LGBT community. That concept is that we somehow wish to proselytize people into our “lifestyle”, especially children. This is never, of course, presented with cogent argument, rather with vacuous rhetoric about everyone promoting being…… Continue reading The LGBT contagion?
Cycles of renewal
Everything in life is part of a greater cycle. There are cycle we see like the earth’s turning about its axis, the moon’s orbit or the earth’s trajectory about the sun. We infer and measure others large and small from the vibration of a single electron in the s-orbital of the hydrogen atom, smaller still…… Continue reading Cycles of renewal
The gender police beyond the binary
Visions appear in my minds eye of middle aged librarians peddling furiously to stop tenth grade student Toby Carmichael from calling the sea the neutral it. Men in crisp white shirts ask to see your papers making sure everything is labeled and in order. Suddenly you are stopped at the corner of tenth and main…… Continue reading The gender police beyond the binary
What’s wrong with McHugh
In the 1970s John’s Hopkins was one of the places you could go to have reassignment surgery performed. The procedure was essentially the same, although there have been many improvements since. However, one notable improvement in the process had not happened yet. The Benjamin rules hadn’t taken over. Virtually anyone could ask for the surgery…… Continue reading What’s wrong with McHugh
Makeup – how many companies are there really?
Not many. Really not many. Here are some lists of who owns what. I’m intentionally omitting some of the other brands that are just nail polish like Essie (L’Oreal), or hair products, etc. L’Oreal Lancome, L’Oreal, Shu Uemera, Urban Decay, It, Maybelline, NYX, The Body Shop Estee Lauder Bobbi Brown, Clinique, Estee Lauder, Mac, Smashbox,…… Continue reading Makeup – how many companies are there really?
This letter makes me so sad
In a response about a pro-LGBT woman in Carlisle, MA an anonymous mom writes a rather long letter talking about why what we do is all so wrong. It is, in many ways, a very illuminating view of many on the “anti” LGBT side. It bears understanding because most such people are not the monsters we…… Continue reading This letter makes me so sad
My Gifted Life 