Tops come in a variety of configurations. Many more than for men. For men there are about 4, tank, polo, t-shirt and button down. There are some less common ones more aimed at sports like jerseys. For women there are that many kind of tops with thin straps. Some tops are meant to be worn…… Continue reading Buying Clothing – tops
True Selves? A four year consideration
I remember reading people’s blogs and watching vlogs and them talking about their “true selves”. For awhile I wondered what they were talking about. The first year of therapy had me feeling a bit split between male and female characteristics and seeking integration to feel whole. As I transitioned I’d tell people that my old…… Continue reading True Selves? A four year consideration
Memories – 2015 Jan to Oct
At this point I was fairly settled in at work, and P and I were still in the “honeymoon” were no definite decision could be made about SRS. I was still entertaining the notion we could find a way to stay married even if not romantically. There were signs this probably wasn’t practical, but we…… Continue reading Memories – 2015 Jan to Oct
The Lost and Found
Down the sidewalks, run do we Past the hardware store Past O’Malley’s pub we see A drunk sleeping as he snores Here’s not where our mind does fly Caught in reverie Lying in our past besides Old waters whole and free There we ran down corridors Built of steel and glass All we thought was…… Continue reading The Lost and Found
More than five years past
There are things that just hit you like a bolt out of the blue. You realize that you’ve a half a decade lost in a miasma of shifting veils learning to be this new and different version of yourself. Was the person before not you and is this a truer you? Is it perhaps just…… Continue reading More than five years past
Be Supportive – Accept us
This is probably the hardest one, it really is. After all, you might have known us a long time. Maybe this all feels a little unnatural and then again it just is so easy to think up objections to why we aren’t genuine. Let me go down the major ones to quell the fear. Not…… Continue reading Be Supportive – Accept us
The Last Step
A few hours ago a door closed on my old life. Many things have changed over the years, but this is particularly poignant. I received a letter, a thick letter, from the Vital Statistics office in Albany, NY and it contained a document saying that a female child Rachel was born to my parents on…… Continue reading The Last Step
Healthcare for all
I am so tired of watching this nation argue we can’t afford to have health insurance for everyone. This despite the fact that every western democracy somehow manages to do so, and does so while spending vastly less per capita than we do. For all that we spend we also get less with worse figures…… Continue reading Healthcare for all
Be Supportive – What you shouldn’t want us to know
Funny title? No, not really. Like many of these posts, this is as applicable to your friends as to trans people. There’s nothing special in what I’m saying other than I grew most aware of this as it affected me though a transgender lens. There’s this concept in Judaism of Lashon Harah, evil gossip. Amongst…… Continue reading Be Supportive – What you shouldn’t want us to know
Be Supportive – Ways not to be listened to
I guarantee you that if you start a conversation like any of these you’ve already lost before you’ve started: What were you thinking wearing something like that You look like a (fill in your pejorative) in that (article of clothing) That makeup makes you look like a (clown, floozy, hooker) I mean, how do you…… Continue reading Be Supportive – Ways not to be listened to
My Gifted Life 