A quick statement and then to the story. I’ve been doing the blog for about eighteen months and I had a few reasons I wanted to do it. Practicing my writing on a regular basis was one, but reaching other trans people was a major one. To reach them people have to want to read…… Continue reading A Shift
Memories from 2014 – Q3 and Q4
This was the calm before the storm, the last hurrah before things got exciting again. Up to the Spring when I hit the 1 year mark full time both P and I knew that I couldn’t go to have surgery anyway. The WPATH requirements are a minimum of 1 year living continuously in your new…… Continue reading Memories from 2014 – Q3 and Q4
Some idiotic comments about why we “want” to be trans
I was looking at comments on YouTube and if it were possible my eyes would have rolled out of my head. Enjoy! men do this because it’s easier to be a women in a gynocentric society. that’s how oppressed men are they are willing to become women — and — There’s more benefits to being…… Continue reading Some idiotic comments about why we “want” to be trans
Why Cross Dressers aren’t Trans and Caitlyn Jenner is
I find myself this morning eating my Cheerios with some almond milk. My iPad is playing a video on YouTube with this guy talking about a video he’s playing. In it some woman is explaining her objections to trans people and confusing some things together. The male commentator made a disparaging remark about Caitlyn Jenner.…… Continue reading Why Cross Dressers aren’t Trans and Caitlyn Jenner is
Detransition
Sometimes a person will go back. They will decide that having gone from Jim to Jane they want to be Jim again. If they are doing this early in the process then really it may be for the best – you don’t always know until you’re knee deep how you feel about it. It isn’t…… Continue reading Detransition
He’s gone
I’ve passed by the lilacs so sweet and so fair Woven red ribbons in my long blond hair The lily of the valley, greets me with dew A new life I’ve found, in the absence of you You were my shell, confining and tight A robe of blue satin bound tightly in white The hood…… Continue reading He’s gone
Dead names and Pronouns
This has been a tough 24 hours, it has. I think it really can be hard for people who’ve known us for a long time to keep our new name straight, twenty or thirty years of history do not vanish overnight, nor does our prior identity as a man or a woman change in their…… Continue reading Dead names and Pronouns
Loneliness
This is the worst part by far, bereft of many family members and friends and even those closest to me. I’m accepted whe I go to events and certainly that feels good, and more fortunate by far than someone who deals with issues of passing, or worse yet passing were it is dangerous to be…… Continue reading Loneliness
Suicide is Painless (not really)
I was thinking back over some of the serious issues that went by on the path and of all of them, this was perhaps the most grave. Suicide claims the lives of many people each year and it is said that about 40% of transgender people attempt it during their lives. Depression and despair take…… Continue reading Suicide is Painless (not really)
Growing more comfortable
I was driving back to work after a very nice lunch with an old friend. He and I have known each other for about twenty five years. We had a nice conversation, and we’ll get together again in a month. The restaurant was nice too, high end mexican food, really nice presentation. I got both…… Continue reading Growing more comfortable
My Gifted Life 