Transgender is a wide umbrella. All it really means is that your sex and your inward felt gender aren’t in sync. That need not be severe enough to cause dysphoria or even what’s called being gender non-conforming. Human’s love labels. There are lots of kinds of trans people. Some do nothing about it, they’re happy…… Continue reading What does transgender really mean?
Posted a FAQ page yesterday
For those who didn’t notice because I didn’t put it out in the blog, I posted an FAQ yesterday in hopes of having it available when answering questions on quora and a resource for people who want answers to questions. Please have a look, and if you think it’s worthwhile, please pass it along to…… Continue reading Posted a FAQ page yesterday
Are We Happier For Having Transitioned?
I posted this earlier today in Quora to a question with an agenda, at least it felt like that. The original question: Are most people who undergo a gender transition happier after transition than before it? I’ve been doing some reading and it doesn’t seem like changing your sex makes a difference for the majority…… Continue reading Are We Happier For Having Transitioned?
So You’ve Just met one of us
Chances are we aren’t the first transgender person you’ve met. Very many of us pass largely undetected around you, yes, even in bathrooms and locker rooms and dressing rooms, both male and female. We simply don’t look remarkable. I look like a woman, I don’t look like a guy, act like a guy, dress like…… Continue reading So You’ve Just met one of us
The Realities of a Woman’s Life at Work
Today is my third birthday as a full time woman, and for the last six months or so I would call myself post transition. Over that period of time thoughts about being trans or wanting to talk about trans issues have dwindled down to little or nothing. Feelings of being different aren’t much anymore. It…… Continue reading The Realities of a Woman’s Life at Work
Overcoming Imperfection
(from Quora) When I came out to my rabbi, after I had stopped sobbing uncontrollably, one of the next things I said was that I could never be a real woman. Some time passed by. A couple of months later I was seeing a therapist for gender dysphoria and expressed the same feeling. My therapist…… Continue reading Overcoming Imperfection
On Guilt
(from a post on Quora) We all have our history. My negative self image was about coming out and then about hurting loved ones. It was about other things too. I needed to stop thinking of myself as being responsible for everyone’s life. It wasn’t ok to suffer because I was afraid. It wasn’t ok…… Continue reading On Guilt
Thoughts on Passing Better
For male to female transgender people it can be a challenge to move through the world. If we can do so with a minimum of trouble we are generally happy. Trouble could be something simple as a harsh look or being called sir by a clerk, or trouble could mean being physically assaulted or worse.…… Continue reading Thoughts on Passing Better
The Dimming of the Light
(inspired by hearing The New Colossus by Emma Lazarus. It left me in tears) The light grows dim By open door Between the shores Through which your weary masses came Your parents then and mine did too From foreign land and distant shore Arrived together within a dream To become all the same A proud…… Continue reading The Dimming of the Light
Thoughts about the Torah’s Morality in Modern Times
Much is made of the Torah’s abhorrence of male homosexuality because it gets called out. It’s there in Leviticus 18.22, right? Let’s consider some things though. If you read through the 613 commandments, there is not one against rape. Huh? Yeah, I was surprised too. Scholars will explain this by various statements about it. If…… Continue reading Thoughts about the Torah’s Morality in Modern Times
My Gifted Life 