It has to happen with all things and so it does with transition as well. There comes a day when you think very little about whether people see you as a woman. Then another day when you don’t talk about trans issues with friends and see them liven up because that is all you’ve talked…… Continue reading Transition’s End
To All the Good Men
I’ve known so many good men, and I still do. Men who would not think to touch a woman against her wishes, men who would not stand by while another was doing such either. Yet I’ve heard things over the years, excuses made for bad behavior and assumptions about what some things must be. Date…… Continue reading To All the Good Men
A Girl’s First Wardrobe
I was posting on a forum I’m on and it occurred to me that the advice was useful for any trans women just starting out. This is the advice I would have liked to have had in the Fall of 2013 and I started to seriously buy clothing and accessories. Clothing Buy as much of…… Continue reading A Girl’s First Wardrobe
A Day of Bones
The start, the end The year circles like a snake, tail to mouth Reaching infinity, reaching nowhere, traveling forever without motion The dawn breaks with a flare of horns and we are blinded by the spirit An adulation rises from the crowd that prays for mercy, healing, help The light rises over head and the…… Continue reading A Day of Bones
Getting your Colors
I know this woman C. I first met C some twenty and more years ago. I was younger and she was younger and it was a different time. I knew her name but we didn’t work together. Since then many things have happened. C has given me many pieces of good advice. I’ve taken some…… Continue reading Getting your Colors
Shuffle Down
Age leads to wisdom Some men say Crazy and deluded Come what may End your life in riches Like Midas if you please Remember though later Was like a disease And the world turns round The cymbals chime And the girls dressed in lavender Sure keep good time They dance you to the center Spin…… Continue reading Shuffle Down
Clothing – Skirts
Why skirts? Well, I’m trying to find some work appropriate skirts right now, so they happened to be on my mind. They became the target of opportunity as it were. Skirts and dresses are also toward the top of what distinguishes men’s and women’s wear. Just look at the icon they use for the bathroom.…… Continue reading Clothing – Skirts
Buy Clothing with Care
Maybe there should be a list of instructions given to every new trans women: Yes, that skirt/dress is too short (that goes double if they had to tackle you to tell you) No, blue is not a good hair color at your age Blush should not look like a giant pink spot! But importantly about…… Continue reading Buy Clothing with Care
Reflections on a New Year
Some of you will just understand the title, for the others let me say that tonight is Rosh Hashanah, the start of the days of awe in the Jewish calendar. It is a time of reflection. A time to think of the year past and how one might lead a better life. The days close…… Continue reading Reflections on a New Year
Biology and SRS
When I was visiting with the GYN I was telling her how blown away I am that all this stuff is possible and works so well. I said a lot of this to her – I’m hoping she would have stopped me rather than agreeing if I was wrong, so here are some of my…… Continue reading Biology and SRS
My Gifted Life 