I was approaching the checkout for the cafeteria at work, maybe five feet away when a young man easily thirty years my junior runs in to get ahead, and to add insult to injury a man more my age just walks quickly to do the same. The first thought in my mind was an …… Continue reading Speeding
Transformation
I was on the phone with my girlfriend C this morning, sympathizing over some pain she’s having. Aside from trying to get her to take it even easier it wasn’t about fixing the problem, it was about comforting my friend. So I’m thinking, wow, I’m not the person I was. When I was D, I…… Continue reading Transformation
New Waters
Some of us who travel this path keep the sexual orientation we had and some don’t. Some of our friends are concerned with labels and make it really uncomfortable, at least it is for me. I used to be oriented toward women and I had a penis and felt I was a man, so the…… Continue reading New Waters
Hormone Therapy
This is probably one of the least well understood topics by trans women I’ve seen, including me at the beginning. What we think is that taking female hormones is going to give us a feminine figure and boobs and that’s the reason to take them. The truth is that hormones, unless you’re an adolescent who’s…… Continue reading Hormone Therapy
Deciding to Transition
In addition to my last post, there are other reasons not to transition. Transition brings a host of psychological changes and skill challenges that really are difficult. I said the rules are different, and they are. That can chafe if you don’t have the right attitude. You talk using somewhat different vocabulary, and you’re surrounded…… Continue reading Deciding to Transition
Everything has a downside
I haven’t spent much time talking about the drawbacks of transition in my life. The process, the options, the experience, but not so much how it all turns out and the risks. Everyone faces a set of pretty universal consequences, some more likely than others: Loss of marriage, if you’re married Alienation of children if…… Continue reading Everything has a downside
Options
You’re searching to find where you’re comfortable. You figured out you’re trans and with or without help you’ve overcome those immediate hurdles like anger, depression, shame, substance abuse, or whatever else either made it possible to cope or was a result of years of not coping. Maybe you’ve been making little adjustments for years in…… Continue reading Options
Misses R
Wow, there is one funky thing. I remember back when my spouse and I married and were husband and wife. It was sort of one of those having to engrain things. I was her husband, repeat, repeat until it became automatic. I imagine something similar for her too. Referring to her as my wife and…… Continue reading Misses R
The Wall
[First try at a short story] He was a small boy, no more than seven or eight years old. The middle child among so many. There were six children in all, three each boys and girls. His name was Moshe, or Moses as we would call him. The oldest child was Sarah. Sarah at fourteen…… Continue reading The Wall
Mornings
I thought it might be handy to compare what comprises an acceptable work outfit and what it takes to get ready for my office job as an engineer. Some people, of course, need to dress up more and some less. Note that accepta D’s typical outfit: Button down shirt, some shade of blue, probably striped…… Continue reading Mornings
My Gifted Life 