She struggled through that night and the cords so long and tight never ceased to weigh and hold her down Clothes ragged, sere and bare, Brambles in her hair, She hungered for the peace to end the pain But one day the sun came shining down and one day the earth was covered round and…… Continue reading Flying Free
To Live is to Learn is to Grow
I first came out in April 2012, which is now coming up on four years ago, it seems like a geological age has passed between.. The changes, which thankfully are over (at least in the large), have been many. I often said why me, but after reading the classic, “True Selves” realized that I was…… Continue reading To Live is to Learn is to Grow
Really, even here?
There still is no legislation ensuring access for transgender people to public accommodations in Massachusetts. If a building owner wants, they can insist I leave the ladies room and for that matter the establishment based on my gender identity. There are many people working on fixing this for Massachusetts and given the Attorney General Maura…… Continue reading Really, even here?
January 26, 2016
This post isn’t themed, it isn’t educational, it’s just reflective. I’m coming up on three months post op and two years since I went full time. I was walking out of Lahey clinic today where I had what was definitely one too many doctor’s appointments over the last week (although I can’t say enough good…… Continue reading January 26, 2016
First Event
I attended First Event for the third time this weekend. For the first time I started to see where I might want to make a regular thing of it, or perhaps not. I had a good time, albeit I stayed for limited hours as I still am battling fatigue even now, eleven weeks post surgery. The very…… Continue reading First Event
Patience
You’ve come out, and you’ve passed the first hurdles of conquering fear, shame and guilt. Now what? It’s tempting to be target oriented, looking toward some end goal. For me, I had an unrealistic notion of how fast things could or would progress. We don’t know what we’re going to do at the beginning and…… Continue reading Patience
Emerging
She stands still in early light rosy cheeks glow so bright Naked to the chilly air quickly donning lacy fair Soon she’s dressed in lingerie Strongly delicate jobs have they Covering the mystery That all girls keep from thee Carefully picks a patterned top, then a skirt that solid be Pulls on tights with a…… Continue reading Emerging
You’re Trans?
I’m talking to people in their 40s and 50s, who are like me, carrying around baggage and aren’t so free in their choices the way they would have been. I’d like to reflect back on some of what I’ve learned on my journey in dealing with shame, guilt and responsibility, and what haunts me still.…… Continue reading You’re Trans?
Looking Back
Toward the start of my journey I spent an awful lot of time asking why. Why did I feel this compulsion, why couldn’t I just deny it, and why the hell was I so unlucky to have this issue in my life. Part of it was looking forward and asking what was going to be…… Continue reading Looking Back
Skip The Recommendations
I love my friends, and I honor their kind efforts, but I have to say to my friends and the friends to other trans people that we don’t really need to be told about the latest book, TV show, movie, play, third cousin twice removed or other anecdote. We actually live this life. I can…… Continue reading Skip The Recommendations
My Gifted Life 