We were driving along the West side highway, close to the end of our journey to grandmother’s house. To be a little more specific an upper west side four bedroom apartment overlooking the East side. We were traveling, as usual, a few days before Christmas which kept the traffic pain to a minimum. As we…… Continue reading Yesteryear’s Christmas
Transitions
You hear this term a lot from people who are making a change in their presentation to the world. I think there’s a tendency for the unfamiliar to think of transition as just one goal and just one endpoint. The truth is that people transition to find a comfortable existence. There are several terms that…… Continue reading Transitions
Missing the old friends
I had a good friend at MITRE for some years. We continued to get together on occasion and shared our passions for woodworking and later piano. I remember the last lunch we had together fairly well. George was having health issues and shortly after went into the hospital. I lost touch with him perhaps because…… Continue reading Missing the old friends
But you can’t ever be a real woman (or man)
After my first question to the therapist, can you make this go away, we started talking about things and my primary issue was that I indeed could never be a “real” woman. This is something I’ve had to come to grips with, and it took up a great deal of mental energy at times. It…… Continue reading But you can’t ever be a real woman (or man)
Not Just Making it up
I was driving home from our weekly Dungeons and Dragons group. I had known these guys for many years at this point, up to thirty years for some of them. On my way home I detoured to a local supermarket having thought about how to get some makeup for myself. I had decided that a…… Continue reading Not Just Making it up
Ten Years and Counting
This is the first of some lookbacks on my first ten years since starting my process. The shortened timeline is as follows: April 2012 – came out to wife and rabbi as transgender and sought help. Shortly thereafter found my therapist for the gender disphoria October 2013 – started hormone replacement therapy March 2014 -…… Continue reading Ten Years and Counting
Transgender?
What’s in the name? I’ll claim a good deal of confusion, Transgender, as a term, encompasses a wide variety of behaviors and degrees of accommodation. All these have in common is that they are variants to the “normal” gender binary. A person can be trans and not have made any transition, or they could be…… Continue reading Transgender?
Oh, the Youth,,,
I could be Plato cursing drunken revelers or a modern parent wondering where their child is ninety minutes past your agreed on curfew time. The constant is that despite the surface accoutrements like a wine bottle or a cellphone, the behaviors being complained about haven’t really changed. Roudy teenagers all. As is usual I’m going…… Continue reading Oh, the Youth,,,
Winter
I find myself discouraged with the world, whether the politics and war in Ukraine, or the politics here at home where I appear to be living in Ray Bradbury’s fahrenheit 451 with the conservatives defining reality by objecting to that which they don’t like. Even going so far as to impose a life sentence in…… Continue reading Winter
Thanksgiving
Yes, I’m really that behind on writing blog posts. I’m overdue by two months. Mea maxima culpa. I spent Thanksgiving with my dear friend Richard up in Rockland Maine. We watched movies, chatted and visited the Hopper Museum. I would say that I could appreciate the art while not being entranced by it. For another…… Continue reading Thanksgiving
My Gifted Life 