There’s this issue of what’s appropriate for trans versus cis people. If we face facts we need to understand that the vast majority of folks are cisgender and their biological sex is not affected by any kind of intersex condition. It is therefore somewhat understandable that we get the simplistic notions that men have penises…… Continue reading Transgender Access
Tag: Acceptance
Why Me
Why you? Why me? Why any of us. It would be hard for me to believe at this point that any of us has not struggled with that question. Nor does it necessarily help to find reasons. If someone tested you tomorrow and said you had a smaller BSTc area like other TG people (postmortem…… Continue reading Why Me
Are we women?
I’ve written before why we are, why people feel we aren’t, but are we? It isn’t an easy topic. It’s fraught with jagged rocks that will rend you from stem to stern. It might be at the crux of what we do by transitioning, but perhaps the other question is, is it? These days if…… Continue reading Are we women?
Transformation
I was on the phone with my girlfriend C this morning, sympathizing over some pain she’s having. Aside from trying to get her to take it even easier it wasn’t about fixing the problem, it was about comforting my friend. So I’m thinking, wow, I’m not the person I was. When I was D, I…… Continue reading Transformation
January 26, 2016
This post isn’t themed, it isn’t educational, it’s just reflective. I’m coming up on three months post op and two years since I went full time. I was walking out of Lahey clinic today where I had what was definitely one too many doctor’s appointments over the last week (although I can’t say enough good…… Continue reading January 26, 2016
Looking Back
Toward the start of my journey I spent an awful lot of time asking why. Why did I feel this compulsion, why couldn’t I just deny it, and why the hell was I so unlucky to have this issue in my life. Part of it was looking forward and asking what was going to be…… Continue reading Looking Back
Male Privilege
This is one of the refrains I’m tired of hearing, along with female upbringing, and the occasional reference to menstruation. Not everyone seems to be able to be able to accept trans women as women. Witness Germaine Greer’s comment about us not having smelly vaginas and therefore not being real women. Of course I’ve never…… Continue reading Male Privilege
Them or me, partie deuxieme
This isn’t really about trans issues, at least that isn’t my call on it. One of the other things that happens in life is finding out a friend isn’t much of a friend. To my thinking friends care about each other and therefore would care if they upset a friend, would want to know why…… Continue reading Them or me, partie deuxieme
Tick, tick, tick, tick
It’s 7:30am, I woke at 6am for the morning ritual involving what everyone’s morning ritual is. Adequate sleep, still pretty darn calm, and the countdown timer is marking the hours. 22:30 minutes and counting before they push liquid into my veins and ask me to count down from 100. Why 100? You never get beyond…… Continue reading Tick, tick, tick, tick
Becoming
On the escalator Bag checked Boarding pass in hand Waiting A little boy Dreams of change Magical contraptions Abracadabra Dawning light Body clean Inside, Outside, Ready, set, go! Transforming A young man Wonders what Girls feel How they are Different Order becomes disorder Genesis becomes chaos All is rearranged Until order is Reasserted Father dreams…… Continue reading Becoming
My Gifted Life 