There come times in all lives when we face difficulties and there are times when those difficulties are over. While there may always be those for whom recounting them will have value, there are many more who want to hear more positive news. It doesn’t matter what the ordeal was. The bout with cancer, mine…… Continue reading Leave the Crucible Behind
Tag: Changes
Pain, Struggles and Tears
I ran into a friend, a lovely person with one of the greatest jobs in the world. Not an easy one. She commented how open I was here on my blog and I have been with information on transition and my struggles with identity and sexuality. I don’t think I’ve kept a whole lot back.…… Continue reading Pain, Struggles and Tears
The weak female
I always sort of wondered. How much was acting and how much was real. Then I started HRT back in 2013. At first there was very little change. It takes a long time for the effects of testosterone to wear off. I was no Arnold Schwarzenegger, but I wasn’t Barney Fife either. I had shoulders,…… Continue reading The weak female
Reflections on 3+ years post transition
Sometimes our friends are kind to us. Sometimes they don’t want to because they think it won’t be nice. I’ll take kind anyday. That included being told by my wife when I was dressed particularly badly, feedback on my hair being too light. It also included lots of things I should have listened to more…… Continue reading Reflections on 3+ years post transition
Memories 2015 from October to December
Going through from March of 2014 when I went full time to March of 2015 was a hiatus. Things were good at home, but it was a kind of truce. We both knew that once I was eligible for surgery things could change radically. There wasn’t much question in my mind that I wanted the…… Continue reading Memories 2015 from October to December
More than five years past
There are things that just hit you like a bolt out of the blue. You realize that you’ve a half a decade lost in a miasma of shifting veils learning to be this new and different version of yourself. Was the person before not you and is this a truer you? Is it perhaps just…… Continue reading More than five years past
Are we selfish
I’ve heard this about others, and I even heard this had circulated at work just before I had officially come out. After the email went out, but before the training meeting. That I was selfish. That so and so is selfish; why did they get married if they knew. That he’s selfish, how could he…… Continue reading Are we selfish
Why you should always hope
My friends, especially those in pain of mind or body or soul. Gut wrenching or that small ins insidious pain that keeps you up at night. The mental anguish that robs you of sleep. I wrote this a few months ago: Pain, it focuses my mind, my eyes, It instructs and separates that which can…… Continue reading Why you should always hope
Memories from 2014 – Q2
April and I was finally starting to get used to my new life. But no matter how much it seems to people on the outside like a switch has been flipped, to someone like me it’s more that another hurdle has been passed, a big one for sure, but just another one. I had a…… Continue reading Memories from 2014 – Q2
Memories from 2014 – Q1
At this point I was four months into HRT. I had stopped getting sirred by anyone but there were still a few people giving me hard stares. Usually not while I was looking, my wife would tell me about my getting a double take. Me in December 2013: In January we finished a couple of…… Continue reading Memories from 2014 – Q1
My Gifted Life 