Along the moonlit shore I walk Tide and flotsam coat the sand Looking back at what I had Walking hand in hand Once we rolled in midnight joy Heaven blessed us with a girl To raise mid love and laughter Grown into a pearl Yet now we walk on separate paths Quiet now defines our…… Continue reading Love Lost
Tag: Changes
Male perception
What up with this? I’ve come out to lots of people, in my personal life, my community and my work life. With few exceptions, the people who have the most issues coping with the idea of transition, or more recently surgery, are men. Generally women are not threatened. In a prior entry I talked about some…… Continue reading Male perception
Lost
We go to find our friends so dear along the moonlit drive Wandering both far and near we call, no answer, why? For years they’ve stood there by your side through thick and thin you trust Then the next page opens wide and still they’re there but just Yet then the changes batter down the…… Continue reading Lost
Three weeks post op
This is likely the last post solely about my surgery, truthfully there are many details that are inappropriate to share either because of my privacy and modesty, or a desire to not publish uncomfortable descriptions. For those who want the anatomical, medical view of this topic I suggest doing searches on PubMed and YouTube has…… Continue reading Three weeks post op
Is it them, or Me??
The areas that hurt most transitioners are losses of family, friends, community and employment. As society gets more accepting these tend to be less of a problem, but it would be the rare trans person who is totally unaffected. Here I want to talk about friends. I can only speak from an MtF viewpoint, I’m…… Continue reading Is it them, or Me??
The true cost of SRS
People live through many good and bad times in their lives. If you are trans, signing up for some type of reassignment surgery is just one more of these. No one reading my post should think that deciding to get SRS, preparing for it or moving on afterwards is a world of rainbows and unicorns.…… Continue reading The true cost of SRS
One week
It was one week ago I had my surgery. I’m a little under a week from going home. The surgeon, Dr. Leis, told me I’m healing well and can go home next weekend. I did take a look for Saturday flights, but finally decided having another day to recuperate is no bad thing. I’ve had…… Continue reading One week
Tick, tick, tick, tick
It’s 7:30am, I woke at 6am for the morning ritual involving what everyone’s morning ritual is. Adequate sleep, still pretty darn calm, and the countdown timer is marking the hours. 22:30 minutes and counting before they push liquid into my veins and ask me to count down from 100. Why 100? You never get beyond…… Continue reading Tick, tick, tick, tick
SRS
Variously known as sex reassignment surgery, gender confirmation surgery and (to my mind) erroneously as gender reassignment surgery, the surgery to transform one’s genitalia from male to female or vice versus is often the holy grail sought by the transsexual transitioner. There are many gatekeepers to pass to reach that place: If nothing else, it…… Continue reading SRS
Losing Gracefully
The journey isn’t a fast ride down a froth filled river of cold water. There are hazards, but they approach in a more leisurely pace than submerged boulders or icebergs at sea. The dangers are seen and unseen but have to do with finding happiness. Somewhere at the start of my journey a friend warned…… Continue reading Losing Gracefully
My Gifted Life 