There are many in our lives and our communities who don’t or think they don’t like us. Some of that is based on what their religion preaches, some because of what they see on TV and some based on ignorance and rumor. If someone is convinced of their view, just walk away. It really is…… Continue reading Bringing Understanding
Tag: Gender
Finding Happiness in Transition
In the world I’ve peered into of trans women there are different kinds of people with different kinds of goals. Remember that most all of these people have an identity of female or female”ish” for their gender with a male body to start with. Some are not to be content with anything short of not…… Continue reading Finding Happiness in Transition
Deciding to Transition
In addition to my last post, there are other reasons not to transition. Transition brings a host of psychological changes and skill challenges that really are difficult. I said the rules are different, and they are. That can chafe if you don’t have the right attitude. You talk using somewhat different vocabulary, and you’re surrounded…… Continue reading Deciding to Transition
Misses R
Wow, there is one funky thing. I remember back when my spouse and I married and were husband and wife. It was sort of one of those having to engrain things. I was her husband, repeat, repeat until it became automatic. I imagine something similar for her too. Referring to her as my wife and…… Continue reading Misses R
To Live is to Learn is to Grow
I first came out in April 2012, which is now coming up on four years ago, it seems like a geological age has passed between.. The changes, which thankfully are over (at least in the large), have been many. I often said why me, but after reading the classic, “True Selves” realized that I was…… Continue reading To Live is to Learn is to Grow
Male Privilege
This is one of the refrains I’m tired of hearing, along with female upbringing, and the occasional reference to menstruation. Not everyone seems to be able to be able to accept trans women as women. Witness Germaine Greer’s comment about us not having smelly vaginas and therefore not being real women. Of course I’ve never…… Continue reading Male Privilege
Male perception
What up with this? I’ve come out to lots of people, in my personal life, my community and my work life. With few exceptions, the people who have the most issues coping with the idea of transition, or more recently surgery, are men. Generally women are not threatened. In a prior entry I talked about some…… Continue reading Male perception
And now what?
I participate in a forum for transgender, transsexual people. It is populated by lovely and giving people. Early on I received a great deal of support; now I need a little less and I try to supply what I can. One of the issues that gets talked about is post-op depression. There’s a huge investment…… Continue reading And now what?
The Whys of SRS
Why get confirmation surgery at all? I’ve written before about people who insist that getting surgery is some requirement for being “serious” about being a woman (or a man I suppose for the FtM community). My negative feelings about those folks haven’t moderated, no person, regardless of intent has a right to put such a…… Continue reading The Whys of SRS
Lost
We go to find our friends so dear along the moonlit drive Wandering both far and near we call, no answer, why? For years they’ve stood there by your side through thick and thin you trust Then the next page opens wide and still they’re there but just Yet then the changes batter down the…… Continue reading Lost
My Gifted Life 