What is your goal? This is an important question and I will claim that your happiness depends on your goal. I’ve heard it said that you cannot depend on others for your happiness and I have found that to be more than a little bit true. Yet this missive is not about happiness per se,…… Continue reading Self Acceptance, Loss and Validation
Tag: rebirth
The Dating Site Con
A lot of us are lonely or at least want to find someone, and there are execrable people out there waiting to take advantage of that to swindle us out of thousands of dollars. I had the poor fortune to waste a week corresponding with one of these folks. Fortunately I refused the hook, but I…… Continue reading The Dating Site Con
The Sculpture
She starts with tiny ball of clay, It slowly grows day by day, Follows plans spare yet Divine, Soon there follows mind and spine, As weeks pass it has a face, And four limbs all joined in place, And so it stays for weeks and months, Growing always leaps and bumps, Then it starts to…… Continue reading The Sculpture
Phase 3
For the first 54 years I lived as a man and honestly many of those were good years. I did a passable imitation of being a guy, at least a relatively non-aggressive guy. I might have had some odd thoughts but I did enjoy having sex and I was attracted to women. That guy had…… Continue reading Phase 3
Ascent
Last mountain climbed Long years past by As she gazed with aged eye The aerie where her hopes do lie And all the world to save Burdens laid aside at last Her back like an arrow cast Aimed at new beast to slay She waits at the end of day Beneath the sunset sky No…… Continue reading Ascent
The true cost of SRS
People live through many good and bad times in their lives. If you are trans, signing up for some type of reassignment surgery is just one more of these. No one reading my post should think that deciding to get SRS, preparing for it or moving on afterwards is a world of rainbows and unicorns.…… Continue reading The true cost of SRS
SRS
Variously known as sex reassignment surgery, gender confirmation surgery and (to my mind) erroneously as gender reassignment surgery, the surgery to transform one’s genitalia from male to female or vice versus is often the holy grail sought by the transsexual transitioner. There are many gatekeepers to pass to reach that place: If nothing else, it…… Continue reading SRS
Flowering
Long time the seed is nurtured there, Beneath the soil with hope and care. Watered well and planted right, It waits the day to seek the light The seasons change, the seasons turn, Ages change a love that yearns, To hold again a loved one near, Remembering the warmer years At last the sun is…… Continue reading Flowering
Torn Apart
Years together sped by too fast cannot make these moments last. The love we feel cannot overtake the fateful steps, we must make The endless ribbon winds us round And binds us gently to the ground No matter that we wish to soar We must break free to fly And so the bonds are burst…… Continue reading Torn Apart
How I felt coming out
For nearly a year, perhaps it was longer, I became more and more fixated on transitioning. At that point I had never dared identify as trans in public, never said a word about how I felt. I felt that if I dared to say I wanted to be a woman that the world would laugh…… Continue reading How I felt coming out
My Gifted Life 