There are many in our lives and our communities who don’t or think they don’t like us. Some of that is based on what their religion preaches, some because of what they see on TV and some based on ignorance and rumor. If someone is convinced of their view, just walk away. It really is…… Continue reading Bringing Understanding
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SRS Update
It’s going on four months and perhaps not amazingly there are still slow changes happening to the lady garden. One of the interesting things is just mental. I examine myself before each dilation to see what is going on and recently caught myself just looking and smiling. Guess it really was the right thing to…… Continue reading SRS Update
Finding Happiness in Transition
In the world I’ve peered into of trans women there are different kinds of people with different kinds of goals. Remember that most all of these people have an identity of female or female”ish” for their gender with a male body to start with. Some are not to be content with anything short of not…… Continue reading Finding Happiness in Transition
Surprises
In just a couple of weeks I will have been full time for two full years, and these are some reflections on some of the things that have been different from what I might have expected. We all enter into this with ideas, but how does reality wear them down? Men I speak not of…… Continue reading Surprises
How Many Sticks?
There’s that old saying about the stick that broke the camel’s back. I’m feeling like that these days. The past six years have been exceptionally difficult ones. I’ll review, quite briefly: 2010: My father was dying all that year and finally fell and broke his hip, or broke his hip and fell. We gave him…… Continue reading How Many Sticks?
Hormone Therapy
This is probably one of the least well understood topics by trans women I’ve seen, including me at the beginning. What we think is that taking female hormones is going to give us a feminine figure and boobs and that’s the reason to take them. The truth is that hormones, unless you’re an adolescent who’s…… Continue reading Hormone Therapy
Deciding to Transition
In addition to my last post, there are other reasons not to transition. Transition brings a host of psychological changes and skill challenges that really are difficult. I said the rules are different, and they are. That can chafe if you don’t have the right attitude. You talk using somewhat different vocabulary, and you’re surrounded…… Continue reading Deciding to Transition
Everything has a downside
I haven’t spent much time talking about the drawbacks of transition in my life. The process, the options, the experience, but not so much how it all turns out and the risks. Everyone faces a set of pretty universal consequences, some more likely than others: Loss of marriage, if you’re married Alienation of children if…… Continue reading Everything has a downside
Options
You’re searching to find where you’re comfortable. You figured out you’re trans and with or without help you’ve overcome those immediate hurdles like anger, depression, shame, substance abuse, or whatever else either made it possible to cope or was a result of years of not coping. Maybe you’ve been making little adjustments for years in…… Continue reading Options
Mornings
I thought it might be handy to compare what comprises an acceptable work outfit and what it takes to get ready for my office job as an engineer. Some people, of course, need to dress up more and some less. Note that accepta D’s typical outfit: Button down shirt, some shade of blue, probably striped…… Continue reading Mornings
My Gifted Life 