I first came out in April 2012, which is now coming up on four years ago, it seems like a geological age has passed between.. The changes, which thankfully are over (at least in the large), have been many. I often said why me, but after reading the classic, “True Selves” realized that I was…… Continue reading To Live is to Learn is to Grow
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Patience
You’ve come out, and you’ve passed the first hurdles of conquering fear, shame and guilt. Now what? It’s tempting to be target oriented, looking toward some end goal. For me, I had an unrealistic notion of how fast things could or would progress. We don’t know what we’re going to do at the beginning and…… Continue reading Patience
You’re Trans?
I’m talking to people in their 40s and 50s, who are like me, carrying around baggage and aren’t so free in their choices the way they would have been. I’d like to reflect back on some of what I’ve learned on my journey in dealing with shame, guilt and responsibility, and what haunts me still.…… Continue reading You’re Trans?
Looking Back
Toward the start of my journey I spent an awful lot of time asking why. Why did I feel this compulsion, why couldn’t I just deny it, and why the hell was I so unlucky to have this issue in my life. Part of it was looking forward and asking what was going to be…… Continue reading Looking Back
Skip The Recommendations
I love my friends, and I honor their kind efforts, but I have to say to my friends and the friends to other trans people that we don’t really need to be told about the latest book, TV show, movie, play, third cousin twice removed or other anecdote. We actually live this life. I can…… Continue reading Skip The Recommendations
Reviewing Transparent (1 & 2)
Amazon has now produced two seasons of a series where the main character, Maura, is a transgender woman in later years. She has a wife and several kids and the drama unfolds around the family and their various connections, romantic and otherwise. The show touches on many themes. It isn’t for really young viewers as…… Continue reading Reviewing Transparent (1 & 2)
Male Privilege
This is one of the refrains I’m tired of hearing, along with female upbringing, and the occasional reference to menstruation. Not everyone seems to be able to be able to accept trans women as women. Witness Germaine Greer’s comment about us not having smelly vaginas and therefore not being real women. Of course I’ve never…… Continue reading Male Privilege
Crossdressing vs Transsexuality
This is a subject that is confusing for many. When it comes to genetic males presenting as females there are really three distinct groups, and their aims are very different: Crossdressers are usually men who do not identify as women, are often straight and crossdressing for release and often a sexual charge from the clothing…… Continue reading Crossdressing vs Transsexuality
Onward
Along the midnight path she wandered, between the surf and sand. The moon it lit her onward path, she opened up her hand. The moonlight filled the hollow there, all with silver light. Reflecting in her eyes it shone, Lighting up the night. A new found path it lit for her, Away from surf and…… Continue reading Onward
Escaping the Past
My prior incarnation, D, tended to be pretty argumentative. This was at its worse with people who were close to me. My therapist feels I was keeping them at a distance, and honestly, that might be a good explanation. I’d add that my interactions with my father growing up pushed me to defend my positions…… Continue reading Escaping the Past
My Gifted Life 