This was the calm before the storm, the last hurrah before things got exciting again. Up to the Spring when I hit the 1 year mark full time both P and I knew that I couldn’t go to have surgery anyway. The WPATH requirements are a minimum of 1 year living continuously in your new…… Continue reading Memories from 2014 – Q3 and Q4
Tag: Transition
Detransition
Sometimes a person will go back. They will decide that having gone from Jim to Jane they want to be Jim again. If they are doing this early in the process then really it may be for the best – you don’t always know until you’re knee deep how you feel about it. It isn’t…… Continue reading Detransition
Dead names and Pronouns
This has been a tough 24 hours, it has. I think it really can be hard for people who’ve known us for a long time to keep our new name straight, twenty or thirty years of history do not vanish overnight, nor does our prior identity as a man or a woman change in their…… Continue reading Dead names and Pronouns
Loneliness
This is the worst part by far, bereft of many family members and friends and even those closest to me. I’m accepted whe I go to events and certainly that feels good, and more fortunate by far than someone who deals with issues of passing, or worse yet passing were it is dangerous to be…… Continue reading Loneliness
What does transgender really mean?
Transgender is a wide umbrella. All it really means is that your sex and your inward felt gender aren’t in sync. That need not be severe enough to cause dysphoria or even what’s called being gender non-conforming. Human’s love labels. There are lots of kinds of trans people. Some do nothing about it, they’re happy…… Continue reading What does transgender really mean?
Posted a FAQ page yesterday
For those who didn’t notice because I didn’t put it out in the blog, I posted an FAQ yesterday in hopes of having it available when answering questions on quora and a resource for people who want answers to questions. Please have a look, and if you think it’s worthwhile, please pass it along to…… Continue reading Posted a FAQ page yesterday
Overcoming Imperfection
(from Quora) When I came out to my rabbi, after I had stopped sobbing uncontrollably, one of the next things I said was that I could never be a real woman. Some time passed by. A couple of months later I was seeing a therapist for gender dysphoria and expressed the same feeling. My therapist…… Continue reading Overcoming Imperfection
On Guilt
(from a post on Quora) We all have our history. My negative self image was about coming out and then about hurting loved ones. It was about other things too. I needed to stop thinking of myself as being responsible for everyone’s life. It wasn’t ok to suffer because I was afraid. It wasn’t ok…… Continue reading On Guilt
Thoughts on Passing Better
For male to female transgender people it can be a challenge to move through the world. If we can do so with a minimum of trouble we are generally happy. Trouble could be something simple as a harsh look or being called sir by a clerk, or trouble could mean being physically assaulted or worse.…… Continue reading Thoughts on Passing Better
Memories from 2014 – Q2
April and I was finally starting to get used to my new life. But no matter how much it seems to people on the outside like a switch has been flipped, to someone like me it’s more that another hurdle has been passed, a big one for sure, but just another one. I had a…… Continue reading Memories from 2014 – Q2
My Gifted Life 