Now all this time I was incredibly conflicted. I wanted to have HRT and transition, but I wanted my family and the two weren’t so compatible. In addition, as a couple we went through some awful times as she struggled. I remember when I first realized I was playing with fire by trying to contain…… Continue reading The road to HRT (part 3)
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The road to HRT (part 2)
As things we not getting solved with art and music, as well as some journaling and whatever else I could think of that would ease things without making any changes, it was time to start the train back up. The next stop was to try cross dressing at home. This was a little tricky since…… Continue reading The road to HRT (part 2)
The road to HRT (part 1)
At the beginning of this journey in April 2012 I came out to my rabbi and wife. After some initial therapy with a general therapist my doctor wanted me to see a psycho sexual therapist, i.e. someone who would be comfortable and competent at assessing me. About six weeks after I came out, and probably…… Continue reading The road to HRT (part 1)
SRS Followup
SRS can have a range of complications, although most of the common ones are fairly minor issues. There are a few complications that people justifiably are scared of because they can make your life anything from a short term misery to something long lasting. A lot of us end up with one or more incisions…… Continue reading SRS Followup
Confirmation Bias
This doesn’t sound like it has much to do with being trans, right? I’ll ask for you patience while I explain what it is, and then I’ll say how it affects us. Confirmation bias is the phenomenon where the brain filters information based on a decision. The dictionary definition: The tendency to interpret new evidence…… Continue reading Confirmation Bias
What About Regrets?
Poor information is often worse than no information at all. I watched a YouTube video where a young 20 something woman gave out both good and some bad information. This included some information that is critical for people considering a transition to know, hence the links in the next paragraph. The following link to the…… Continue reading What About Regrets?
Pondering your road
I’m on a really lovely discussion forum for trans people. Most of the participants are older, but not all. I started with that group in 2012 when I came out, and if I’m on less now then I owe many people on their a debt along side friends, family, medical and psychiatric professionals. If nothing…… Continue reading Pondering your road
Under the surface
We walk and talk, exchange pleasantries. We say the appropriate automatic answers to how are you. We keep up our public face. We do this until we crumble into dust, some into malaise, some into a hospital, a heart attack, suicide. Men more than women but they say depression and anxiety disorders are one of…… Continue reading Under the surface
SRS one year after
It has been a year, a few days shy anyway. I’d say the healing is complete. Perhaps the scars under my breasts are still a little pink, but I am not at all sure you would say they aren’t healed. My breasts aren’t quite there with respect to sensation. The right (facing me) is well…… Continue reading SRS one year after
Building a full time guide
There’s a new set of pages I’m building. It’s meant to be a compilation and retrospective of lessons learned, advice, and other info on going full time. It’s going to grow over a period of time. The main page is up and the first child page is up. Please feel free to comment. It’s oriented…… Continue reading Building a full time guide
My Gifted Life 