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Tag: transphobia
On Cis Dating and the Golden Rule
Let’s distinguish two things. It is not, in my opinion, transphobic to not wish to date someone for any personal reason. It might be something as simple, for a male, as wanting natural children and seeing no point in dating someone who cant bear a child. I wouldn’t hold it against them. Refusing to acknowledge…… Continue reading On Cis Dating and the Golden Rule
Vulnerability of a pronoun
(Modified from a Quora answer) I don’t get offended when people accidentally screw up pronouns with me. I even had that discussion today with my eye doctor who was apologizing for my last office visit and I told him it really isn’t a big deal. I’ve been his patient for 20 years and he still…… Continue reading Vulnerability of a pronoun
Reflections on four years full time
I’d like to starts with the hard stuff so I leave you with some more positive messages. As these years have gone by it has become more and more apparent how deep my losses have been. Not everyone’s go this deep and some go deeper. I’ve seen outright rejection, usually in a non-confrontational way. I’ve…… Continue reading Reflections on four years full time
How to be a good friend to trans people
Or… how to be a good friend to anyone who is in some way different or out of the norm. I answered a question on Quora about why it “sucks” to be trans and answering a friend’s comment realized that most of the problem roots in the difference of trans people from the norm and…… Continue reading How to be a good friend to trans people
All the reasons people can’t accept us
I’m refining an answer I started on Quora. I went ahead and posted it but I was not content. It is just a really complex issue. The original question had to do with trans “hysteria”. I don’t know that we will ever fully know what causes people to be transgender in the details. We will…… Continue reading All the reasons people can’t accept us
Lose that Chip
This goes for other communities that are hypersensitive too (at least parts of them are), but I’m not going to name them, or shame them. All these communities really are marginalized, victimized, and vilified by the general populace or even just the majority. They feel justifiable outrage, but sometimes that slips over into things that…… Continue reading Lose that Chip
What’s wrong with McHugh
In the 1970s John’s Hopkins was one of the places you could go to have reassignment surgery performed. The procedure was essentially the same, although there have been many improvements since. However, one notable improvement in the process had not happened yet. The Benjamin rules hadn’t taken over. Virtually anyone could ask for the surgery…… Continue reading What’s wrong with McHugh
This letter makes me so sad
In a response about a pro-LGBT woman in Carlisle, MA an anonymous mom writes a rather long letter talking about why what we do is all so wrong. It is, in many ways, a very illuminating view of many on the “anti” LGBT side. It bears understanding because most such people are not the monsters we…… Continue reading This letter makes me so sad
My Gifted Life 